Haiiiiii Everybody there...
I'm back...
This time, I wanna having a chit chat bout a movie, a Korean Movie which got me a very deep meaning that I think over over and over. Okay, lets say this will be a short preview movie. The title is "Kim Ji Young, Born in 1962".
Firstly, as I know this movie adapts based on the true story of the live of a housewife in Korean. It tells how the reality goes when you live in Korean as a woman. I can explain the details about how their culture does toward their daily live. But, from some references Korean and Indonesian have a look-alike culture about Gender stereotype in their daily life (CMIIW).
Though I see many things have been developed better nowdays, in some aspects I see this issue still stays in our daily life. It's about how Feminism and Patriarchy go through our culture, especially for Javanese people like me. That also goes well in Korea. Patriarchy stands to "keep" the society going on the right track wkwkwkwk. (Today I talk about something more serious like waowww my bullshit things wkwkwkwk, keep reading, people).
Yupppp, in our culture, man is the centre of everything. The rule indirectly says that woman must obey every single thing that man ordered. When you are married, as a woman, and the condition doesn't support you to keep working, what will you do? YOU MUST QUILT from your work. Society has this rule, so does the parents, the older families, etc. It's so impossible to do the opposite decision. Women just NEED to stay at home, doing household and stay calm, having pregnant, giving birth, keeping kids, raising them perfectly and if something bad happens everyone (especially your mother in law) will accuse you as the mother. Done, Baby!
Okay,
Of course that thing is not always be every woman's marriage story. Many parents in law have a very well relationship with their daughter in law, also so many husbands out there who permit their wives working. So many, as I said before, this culture has developed well nowdays. Feminism gets more famous in society. How people respect us a woman. But I think for Javanese, "Mother in law's things" still stays "happily" in our daily lives.
I have a question, when you are on your husband's house, can you just sit still as you do on your own house?? Some of you maybe say yes, but I'm sure most of us will say no. That's very different if the situation is that our husband in our house. Do they need to be perfectly pretending to be THE MOST TIDY MAN in the world? NO, wwkwkwkkw....
Okay, Isn't it too confusing reading my explanation above, right. wkwkwkwk.
We as women, the one who should relent wkwkwkwk...
It's okay for a husband to get tired from their working but society says that It's not okay for a husband to get tired from keeping their children. Woman, the one who should has it all wkwkwkwk...
Surely I was writing this blog while laughing loudly. Although I, my self, exactly will not obey this kind of rule of course wkwkwkwkw. I don't care even my husband are home from working, he must help me to do the rest household when I am too tired to fisnish it all wkwkwkwkkw, just a bad wife i guess... or maybe anyone's doing agree with me??? raise your hand, pretty mom wkwkkwkw...
In this movie, the culture reveals that Korean daughter in law must obey and be super nice toward her parents in law especially their mother in law' (okay, I don't mean you to be such a jerk daughter in law, I mean "super nice" here as if a Maid toward her Dame). Ji young ssi has to quilt working when she has a baby. She is distressed with her current life. And the pressure from her mother in law makes her getting more stressful. She begins to have a mental sickness. Sometimes her stress is out by talking as different person.
Hemmmm.... in this case, I feel so related with this issue because I am also a housewife who is staying full time at home. There is a time when I am like in the bottom of no where because I am too tired and too bored with my daily activity. You know it's so stressful to do all the same activity EVERYDAY.
All we need is just simple, my husband has willingness to help the household, and listen my stories, and asking me to have days out when we have holiday time. Of Course we will be very happy when our husband ask us to go shopping wkwkwkwkwk.
Actually, TO UNDERSTAND each other is an important key to survive. If the condition force us to continue staying at home, it is quite okay to communicate it together. As a husband, never say this sentence "You only stay at home all day long, what makes you tired?" to your House Wife if you don't want to see your wife turns into a moster, A VERY SCARY MONSTER wkwkwkwkw.
Understand that WE may even more tired than you, Man!
We work even when we are just up from our sleeping and even not finish when it times to go bed. We literally work all the time. And you still say that We are just sitting nice all day long? What the wkwkwkkw.....
The movie has a nice ending story. Ji young are back to work and her husband takes a year-parents-leave for the daughter's adaptation when they both have to go back working. Nice!
In the end feminism growing well and better now. Society are getting more aware toward Woman's existence through the world. We are not a machine to marry and give birth only. We are having life as the Men have. We have rights to decide how many kids that we want (wkwkwkwwkwk modus). It's our right to choose our ways. At least, respect us.... (PROKKKK PROKKKK PROKKKKK) :)
Okay,
That's all, Mommies,,,,
We'll have another fun-time next...
Thankyou for reading my rubbish here...
December 15, 2019
