Back again at my blog...
I got a fever, and feeling a little bit unwell for sure..
Okay,
This time, I wanna share a tiny discussion about life negotiation and dealing with parent. I read an article and it seems that this discussion become trending recently.
A woman said in her twit, that children is not a money mechine to dig in. She said it's too tired to bring all burden and cover all the need of her parent after she got a job. Means she's working for her parent and her family though she doesn't want it. She claimed that children is not an investation.
In the other hand,
Some other people gave their objection. A man twitted that giving money to our parent eon't make you become poor. It will pay back twice and more and moreeee (lhoh lhohhh nape jadi lirik lagu nya TWICE, *I am not a ONCE fyi 🤣🤣🤣).
When I read this discussion posted on IG,
Hemmmm...
I am like...
I am in the middle...
No, not neutral I mean,
I am just like, okayyyy, the two opinions above are just right.
We have our own case,
And we can not refer which case is better.
because yahhhh, Each family has their own stories..
I will give you a lil bit story (from my family point of view),
My mom (my Dad had passed away 😁), she is typically a "not-asking-too much" parent. When I worked long time ago, she doesn't ask anything. When I am merried, also, she doesn't ask anything.
I've given her some penny, She didn't accept it.
And I asked her why? She just answered that she didn't want to take it because it's from my husband, literally I am not working right now, and she said that she had enough from her own bill (she's a nurse).
And the most surprising thing, she said that,
"if you want to pay back at me, just give it to ur childeren, treat them like I treat you, grow them as I grew you, give them life better than I gave you life back then, that's the way how you can pay me back"
And can't hold my tear,
I am feeling so useless as a children,
Honestly, my hubby and I, we are still struggling to reach our dream, and maybe we still can't help our parents much,
Andddd..
My mother's statement above makes me less worried.
I am soooo teary hearing this, yet feeling calm,
My mother of course still have some need to cover up, buy she doesn't force me to help her, she said that growing ur children, send them to a good school is just an ordinary thing as if you are eating three times a day, as if you take a bath twice a day, so if you have to struggle for your children, it's so ordinary thing, and never thinking that my children have to pay me back.
However, I am as her child of course always want to help. But then, this also effects my mind set also toward my children later.
I will be very happpyyyyy if I can make her success, and when she can make a living better than us, I will just ummmm okay, there is no need to pay us back as her parent.
It is more thsn enough for me,
She can be independent and live a happy life with her family later 😘...
That a little bit of my opinion,
No offense for.other opinion,
If you feel that helping ur parent is a must and have to, it's also an awesome thing to do.
In my conclusion,
"A good parent is a parent who never asking you too much, and a good children will try to give their parent as much as they can"
Okay,
It's enough I think for today's discussion, Mommiesss...
If you want to share your stories or opinion, just share it in comment section,
Thank's for listening my uneg uneg 🤣🤣...
See ya in the next post...
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